Doing too many things is worse than doing nothing

to-doI have become more & more convinced lately that in order to improve your productivity, even to get rid of procrastination, it is not so much about learning the art on how to do the things, but to practice on how to Not doing the things.

Your first instinct when stumbled upon a task or have a feeling or an urge to do a certain thing, be it extremely trivial, such as reading an article or post, upgrading some app etc or any other seemingly trivial thing, should be to Not do it. In fact, you should spend minimal time even contemplating about the task & by default you should have a reason to just kill the task, and, I repeat, Not do it.

If you decide to take up the task, or even committing a minimal amount of time to the task or the errand,  there must be very compelling reasons to do it.

This approach may not sound very simple & I welcome opinions that disagree with it, but in my personal experience, I have found it to be working completely & helping me, almost magically, filtering out the tasks that are not important to me and the tasks that essentially matter for me.

Feedback & other inputs are welcome via the comments. Thanks.

Must read answer on Quora to Do arranged marriages in India really work?

Source:  http://qr.ae/6tPF2

This is my first answer on Quora and probably my last.

I was born and brought up in Agra, the city of the Taj Mahal. I had just completed my B.Sc from Agra when my parents decided to get me married. I was okay with  it, since I had lost 2 years after my 12th standard in pursuit of getting a  medical seat. I had to reject the first two suitors because of various  reasons. The third rejected me because he thought I was too short for  him. The fourth was the best. He worked in Bangalore, was from Allahabad  and hailed from a good family. He was too busy with his work, so we met on Skype for the first time. We liked each other.

But  there was one big problem: I had to tell my decision right after the  chat. I asked for time and I got one full night to decide. Ironic isn’t  it: you just get 8 hours to decide your future life partner, whereas  you get 2 full years just to try for an entrance exam?

My  gut said that he was good. I had just read Paulo Coelho’s The Alchemist then, so I thought the  less time available was a good omen and was directing me to take the  right decision. I agreed. Both families discussed and our engagement was  set in Allahabad, one month later. He used to call me regularly during  this period. We both got involved in each others lives. On the E day, I met  him for the first time and damn!, he was taller than his parents  mentioned. But he looked like a movie star. I fell in love with him that  instant! Alas, he had to go back the same night. :-(

Our  marriage was fixed four months later, on September 12th. His calls were  increasing, I just loved it. I also got to know of  his severe alcohol  problem! But he promised he’d quit after marriage, so it was fine. But,  suddenly in the middle of July he started avoiding me  really bad. He used to switch off his phone, cut my calls and never reply  on WhatsApp. I got tensed. I wanted to inform his parents, but was too  scared.

I get a text at 3 a.m. on July 29th. The text was this:

“Are you a Virgin?”

I really did not know where that came from, but I was scared. However, I gathered my courage and replied, “Yes, but what happened? Why were you avoiding me? Has anybody told anything against me?”

He  did not reply. He started picking my calls, but never spoke  wholeheartedly. Even upon repeated questioning, he never told me the reason  for his behavior. I was really depressed and worried.

By then, my parents had already spent so much for marriage, so I didn’t want to do anything that would hurt them.

Finally we got married. And he was gloomy throughout the occasion.

As  per our tradition, the bride should go to the groom’s place after the  marriage. We went to their house. The bed in our room was really  decorated, like the one you see in movies. Finally we got to bed around midnight. He did not talk. I was shy too. I do not know if it’s appropriate  to mention here, but I craved for physical intimacy that particular  moment.

I  asked the reason for his weird behavior. He didn’t speak a word.  Suddenly he started crying loudly. He said he had committed some grave  mistakes. I told him that we could solve it together. He mentioned that he needed a favor but he would ask for it after going to Bangalore.

We left for Bangalore on September 20th. All these days, we never had sex.

Finally, I was told that he had bet huge sums of money on football matches  after getting drunk.  The amount was around 35 lakh rupees. That is a really  huge amount, even for both our families put together. But then, the next thing he told,  was the worst thing I had ever heard in my life. He had bet my  virginity.

He  had bet my virginity against 2 lakh rupees! I did not understand, I did  not want to believe. He said that there was a guy, named Aamir and he  just wanted me to sleep with him and lose my virginity to him. I was  devastated.

I did not know anything. I wanted to go back home and cry. But then, family, my sister, everything came to my mind.

But, have sex with a stranger, because my fiance thought he owns me? NO.
I told him that I wouldn’t have sex with a stranger whatsoever. He told me that he would try to sort the matter out.

I  was completely broken. My first day in Bangalore gave me the worst news  of my life. I just cried and slept. Two  people arrived in at the evening. I was under my blanket. Suddenly I felt someone entering. Then a  guy put in his hands in my blanket. I shouted loud. They got a bit  scared I guess. Those people were having an argument with my husband. I don’t remember a single word of it, but they finally left after 20  minutes. I was still in a state of shock, holding the room door closed tightly.  I never let my so-called husband in that night.

I  called my parents and told them everything at 3 a.m. They contacted one of  our relatives in Chennai who came the next morning, picked me up and  took me to their place. I stayed there for 5 days and now I’m back to Agra. We  have  filed a police complaint, formally filed for a divorce and I have  still not recovered from my Bangalore horror.

I  know I am generalizing, but please beware of alcoholics. He had every  other quality right, but people make stupid decisions under the  influence of alcohol which might sabotage the life of someone else.

What wrong had I done? Even though we were poor, I grew up with respect. My father spent almost 70 percent of his savings on my marriage. Now, lawyer fees and other expenses. What wrong had I done?

I might be considered as a ‘witch’ now. Why? I don’t know. Other people and  the police say that I am doing this for his salary. Would I risk the  respect of my parents, my sisters marriage and my entire life for a  software engineer’s half salary?


Edit – Thanks a lot everyone for the comments, I feel stronger than before. Writing this answer has helped me a lot. I really do not how to repay you.

I would like to make these things clear:

  • I am not blaming Software engineers, even I want to be a Software Engineer.
  • Yes, I am blaming alcohol. I come from a lower middle class family and I have seen the ill effects of alcohol.

Is Angular.js or Ember.js the better choice for JavaScript frameworks?

Great post from Tom Dale on Ember vs Angular …

Answer by Tom Dale:

As one of the authors of Ember.js, I frequently get asked: "Should I use Angular or Ember?"

I think the answer to that question has a lot more to do with what kind of application are you building? than is Ember better than Angular?

While there are a few superficial similarities—they both use bindings and are more helpful for writing web applications than, for example, Backbone.js—they quickly depart from one another in how they expect you to approach building apps.

Let me first discuss the inspiration for Ember.js. Starting in 2009, I worked on SproutCore while at Apple, in addition to contributing to the suite of web applications that became what you now see on iCloud. In that environment, I was surrounded by some of the best Cocoa developers in the world.

Now, here's the thing about client-side web applications: they're not really breaking new ground. The fundamental model has been around since the 80's: code running locally on a computer, fetching data from the network, and then rendering it locally and putting it on screen. Really, the only thing that's changed is that the code is running inside the sandboxed environment of the browser, and the "binary" is loaded as you need it instead of being installed by the user onto their hard drive.

To me, the obvious thing to do is to look around and ask: What have the people who have come before us done? And I think it's hard to argue with the success of frameworks like Cocoa, both on the Mac and on iOS, in aiding developers in writing apps that users love.

We want developers to be able to build ambitious web apps that are competitive with those native apps. To do that, they need both sophisticated tools and the right vocabulary of concepts to help them communicate and collaborate.

With Ember.js, we've spent a lot of time borrowing liberally from concepts introduced by native application frameworks like Cocoa. When we felt those concepts were more hindrance than help—or didn't fit within the unique constraints of the web—we turned to other popular open source projects like Ruby on Rails and Backbone.js for inspiration.

Ember.js, therefore, is a synthesis of the powerful tools of our native forebears with the lightweight sensibilities of the modern web.

Now, Angular: I actually really like Angular, Google, and all of the developers I've met on the Angular team. In fact, we had once discussed how we might unite our efforts, but—excuse my French—the synergy just wasn't there.

Angular, in my opinion, is much more of a research project than Ember.js. Just look at the terminology: Ember talks about models, views, and controllers. Angular's guide requires you to learn about things like scopes, directives and transclusion.

I am all in favor of research projects, and I wish them the best. But, as Jeremy Ashkenas always says, look at the apps in production.

Big companies have invested serious time and energy in Ember.js, and the results speak for themselves. The new version of ZenDesk has been rewritten in Ember (after they got frustrated with Backbone.js and moved off it). The entire web experience at Square is Ember, because they wanted a beautiful and responsive UI on the web and institutionally know that those can be delivered using concepts borrowed from Cocoa. Many of Groupon's mobile web apps are Ember.js. There are many, many more startups finding success with Ember.js, and in turn, contributing to it and helping grow the community.

The majority of apps that I've seen written in Angular are demos or internal Google properties.

Yehuda and I have been extremely aggressive about getting real users of Ember involved in the design and maintenance of the framework. This keeps us honest and makes sure features we add are not things we think are neat but are driven by real problems developers are hitting today.

In fact, for the past few months, the majority of the work on Ember.js proper has been done by a core group of community contributors, from different companies. If Yehuda and I got hit by a bus tomorrow, Ember would be fine. If our company went under, Ember would be fine. By making this a truly community project, instead of a "by Google" project, I believe we get an order of magnitude more man-hours contributed to it.

Back to technical details. From their own website, "AngularJS is what HTML would have been, had it been designed for building web-apps." I think that that philosophy is evident when looking at their apps. The user interface is defined by HTML tags, decorated with attributes (like `data-ng-repeat`) that have semantic meaning.

Ember.js uses Handlebars to describe the HTML that makes up your application interface. Now, aesthetically, we can argue whether you prefer Handlebars syntax (which uses, for example, the

{{#each}}

helper) or annotating HTML with additional attributes like Angular does. I personally think that the HTML attribute approach is a little noisier and hard to read, but I think that anyone can get used to either one. If Ember.js didn't exist and I had to use a framework that uses data attributes, I wouldn't cry.

But leaving aesthetics aside, I believe that our approach to using string-based templates gives us several advantages, both now and in the future:

  • String-based templates can be pre-compiled on the server. This signficantly reduces startup time (because there is effectively no computation required at app boot) and means that rendering a template is as simple as invoking a function.
  • Angular requires you to traverse the entire DOM at app boot time. The bigger your app is, the slower it starts.
  • If you ever want to render your app on the server (for indexing by Google crawlers or to make first loads display faster), Angular requires you to boot an entire browser environment like PhantomJS, which is resource-intensive. Handlebars is 100% JavaScript strings so all you need is something like node.js or Rhino.
  • String templates are easy to divide up and load lazily, if your app starts getting large.

Additionally, Handlebars only lets you bind to properties, while Angular allows you to embed arbitrary expressions that live update. Many people initially see this as a limitation of Ember, but in fact:

  • Ember.js makes it extremely easy to create computed properties in JavaScript, which can contain arbitrary expressions. We just require you to specify your dependencies so that we can be smart about when we update. Only things that change are updated.
  • Angular must recompute those expressions every time something changes, which means the more bound elements in your app, the slower it gets.
  • Because Ember.js only allows you to bind to properties, we will very easily be able to take advantage of the performance benefits of ECMAScript 6 features like Object.observes (http://wiki.ecmascript.org/doku….). Because Angular invented their own subset of JavaScript with a custom parser (https://github.com/angular/angul…), it would be difficult to allow browsers to optimize this in native code.

Angular, in general, relies on something called dirty checking to determine when changes have been made. Dirty checking is when you scan each object and all of its bound properties, comparing the current value to the last known value. If it changes, you go update the binding. As you can imagine, this gets very expensive the more objects you have.

The Angular guys are smart and they made this tradeoff very carefully. Their reasoning is:

  • With dirty checking, you don't need to use accessors. You can say
    person.name = "Bill"

    instead of

    person.set('name', "Bill")

    like you would in Ember.js or Backbone.js.

  • Why would you ever have so many objects in DOM that this would end up becoming a bottleneck?

Needless to say, we made the opposite decision. Miško Hevery describes the tradeoffs they made on StackOverflow: http://stackoverflow.com/a/96939….

He points out, with dirty checking, that you can never have more than 2000 bound objects at a time. (Note that only one of his three "issues with change listeners" applies to Ember.js, because of our run loop.)

I think that this illustrates best the difference in philosophies between Ember.js and Angular. Ember.js and Angular both strive for simplicity and ease-of-use. But Ember is designed so you don't have to worry about whether or not you have 2000 bindings. If you're writing large-scale apps, you've got bigger things to worry about.

Angular is great for small- to intermediate-scale applications that will never run into the limitations of their architecture. With Ember, we sometimes ask you to do a little more work—like specifying the dependencies of your computed properties—in order to make the most common operations run at O(1) instead of O(n), or worse.

We're always looking to take advantage of new browser and language features to make things easier to use. For example, once proxies land in ES6 (http://wiki.ecmascript.org/doku….), we won't require you to use

get()

and

set()

any longer. But we're not willing to give you a little bit of rope if we think you'll just end up hanging yourself with it as your app grows.

So that's why I think, if you're building ambitious apps, you should pick Ember.js.

We're not afraid to borrow liberally from our predecessors that have already learned how best to build large apps.

We've got a fantastic community that has some of the smartest web developers working on the hardest problems, and they're doing it because they're hitting those hard problems in the real world and they want to solve it correctly.

We've thought very long and very hard about performance, how to make sure your applications don't hit pathological cases, and how to best take advantage of the features coming in the language. (Yehuda Katz, who works on Ember.js with me, is also on on TC39, the committee in charge of coming up with the next version of JavaScript.)

We've now locked down the 1.0 API, so you can start learning and not worry about the ground changing from under your feet.

To really get a feel for Ember, here's a screencast I put together of building an app from scratch:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=Ga99hMi7wfY

There are also some great resources for learning:

If you're building ambitious apps, you should definitely check out Ember.js.

Is Angular.js or Ember.js the better choice for JavaScript frameworks?

Are there any places in India that look like Europe?

Answer by Rahul Khanvilkar:

Big Ben, London

Rajabhai Tower, Mumbai


Arc de Triomphe, Paris

India gate, New Delhi


Leaning Tower of Pisa, Italy

Qutub Minar, New Delhi


Trakai Castle, Lithuania

Jal Mahal, Jaipur


Venice, Italy

Alappuzha, Kerala


Switzerland

Shimla, Himachal Pradesh


Oresund bridge, Sweden to Denmark

Bandra Worli Sea Link, Mumbai

Are there any places in India that look like Europe?